I read a lot of things online. Especially things pertaining to parenting. And I see a lot of criticism, cattiness, and judgement from and to other moms. I have been the receiver of motherly judgment and cattiness as well as criticism and let me tell you, yes, “I’m that mom” and I really don’t care what anyone thinks about that.
See, we are all “that mom” in some way or another.
Before we have kids we look around us and see something we don’t like. Maybe we see a mom getting frustrated with her child in the grocery store because she’s lost her patience, or the mom starring at her phone at the playground, or perhaps the mom giving her child a sucker for a moments peace and we think to ourselves, “I’ll never be that mom.” Well, let me tell you, we are all “that mom” at one point or another and I’m okay with that because it means I’m being the best mom I can be for my kids–not yours. We all work differently.
Being a parent is challenging and there really is no one way to do it. If something works for your kid, I can guarantee it won’t work for mine. If I give my kids a sucker from time to time to get through the grocery store I can guarantee it was a necessary action for the health of all parties involved. My child acts differently than yours. My child responds to different discipline than yours. I have a different patience limit than you. I allow my children different things than you do yours due to our different upbringings, ideals, spirituality etc. And I will defiantly cook my parsnips and spinach differently than you.
Each family unit is different for a variety of reasons. And each child is different within those units. Let’s be patient with each other and kind–applaud the mother handing her child a lollipop in the grocery store because she is willing to take that step in order to get through the shopping trip so she can feed her family in the coming days.
I wish women still made bread together. I wish motherhood and parenthood was not a competition but rather a comradeship. I wish that mother in the store who is frustrated with her child could get more pats on the back and words of encouragement that it will get better. Because it will–especially when we are reminded to look for it. Help your fellow parents to stay strong and feel good about what they are doing.
We are raising the next generation of people–lets show them how to work together.